in love and war"
Complete Guide to Picking Up and Seducing
Basic Training for Frustrated Chumps and Nice
Table of Contents
Read this first:
- copyright information and about the origins of this guide.
- forget money, forget fame, just cut to the chase and get the
abbreviations and acronyms - all acronyms used in the guide
3 seconds rule - the most important rule you'll ever learn, say
bye-bye to hesitation.
and feel your best - all the time!
the Alpha/Dominant male - be in charge of your surroundings. Including
my looks matter? - yes they do, but not nearly as much as you
guys vs. jerks - the key difference between the two explained.
traits to have - or develop, to be a successful player.
all comes down to satisfaction - read why you actually have the upper
hand with the most beautiful of women.
want good sex - so make sure you do her right:)
you express or contain your sexual desires? - a moot point, read
play the dating game? - ... um... let's see now...
rules with your wingman - if you approach girls together with a friend
/ wingman, make sure you agree on the rules.
confidence - and getting started with approaching girls.
- don't think twice, don't look back, just have fun!.
meetings vs. pick-ups - the pros and cons.
a party - a mild alternative to the 3s rule.
say "Hi" - then continue with one of the two tactics described in the
to girls - everywhere!
to initiate a conversation - here's your back-up, in case your primary
parachute doesn't open.
to her = echoing her - a stripped down version of Trance
words and Eliciting
talk - the essential skill of talking about nothing, and how to evolve
"don'ts of fluff talk - what to avoid.
body language - its like reading people's thoughts, it'll blow you
- the Jedi mind tricks of body-language explained.
- make touching the girls your second nature, even (and especially!:) if
you just met them, they'll love it:)
Approaching and making them
to meet girls - the most popular places for a pick-up.
she seems unapproachable - then maybe everyone thinks so... and she's
guidelines on approaching - a few pointers and examples to get you
value and personality - the basic premise of seduction.
importance of a first impression - or relative unimportance, depending
on whether you're an AFC or a PUA:)
and lead - and demonstrate understanding to increase
approaches - examples of various conversational approaches.
cold approach - not a good approach, unless you combine this with the
collision approach - either let her walk by... or "bump" into
available chair approach - that empty chair next to a HB looks
crappy sketch-artist approach - because women like artists
dramatic approach - catch everyone's attention... including
cellular approach - to choose any topic of discussion.
familiar approach - act like you already know her, or fool her into
thinking she knows you:)
opener - a really "sweet" opener by Mystery:)
look stunning approach - Ross Jeffries' classic, careful though, not
intended for use with the 9s and 10s:)
the ongoing reality - a simple way to get instant rapport.
I buy her a drink? - read why you'd better avoid it.
I ask for her name? - so that you'd know what name to yell when you're
sleeping with your hand?:)
off someone else's crash and burn - anything is fair in love and
she is working - a waitress, a nurse, a girl at the cashier - this one
you just have to use a pick-up line - they suck, unless you show you
know they suck.
like..." game as an opener - you can use this one anywhere.
Smooth technique - the game-show host style technique of a Japanese
PUA explained step by step.
questions game - a shortcut to sex-talk and
Gimmicks - palm-reading
a gimmick to get going - handwriting analysis, tarot cards, palmistry
- "crap" you say?:)
- why should you use it? -
the lines in general - a do-it-yourself guide to becoming a
the line of Fate - yes please:)
her love-life - uuuhh... sounds interesting:)
the line of Heart - good, good:)
the mount of Venus - oh no... where is that?!:)
sample reading routine - a few examples to give you the general
Night-clubs and dancing
vs. other places to meet girls - a few words of warning.
to switch to the right mindset - set yourself apart from "death
for a dance - just honor the traditions. If you want to get
dancing - unless you have the skills of a back-up dancer, don't waste
dancing - an exception to the "don't waste your energy rule"
dance to slow dance - a superior technique of transitioning to a
slow-dance no matter the music:)
the dance - now that you've got her, don't let her slip
she is with a friend - or even worse, a group of friends? How do you
a group of many girls - a simpler strategy for approaching
to have her leave the group - a passive strategy... but still pretty
explained - Mystery shows you what gets you the attention of the most
expansion pack - some additional advice on using neghits and a few
values explained - become the man of her dreams, just by talking to
words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Patterning).
the girl - and you can read her like an open book.
values - introducing the questions - how to ask the questions without
values - the questions - so what questions should you ask?
values - the answers - now that you know her values, it is time to
talk about "yourself":)
perfect relationship - a simple value-eliciting scheme.
style explained - I bet you won't believe that this actually works:)
Well, it does:)
style lines - completely outrageous!:)
style expansion pack - a continuation of the GM style, links to
about sex - a few words of warning.
sexual stories to get her horny - can you get away with it? Or, can
she get away... without a wet spot in her pants:)
Ideal Guy routine - no matter her interest for you, use this to get
her horny (and be around when that happens:).
explained - the essence of Ross Jeffries' Speed Seduction.
patterns - general rules - the most important aspects.
patterns - tonality - the right way to do it.
words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Eliciting
explained - the Pavlov's reflex of seduction:)
and stacking realities - you can get away with anything using this
(also relates to Sexual talk":)
distortion - how to make a girl you just met feel like you've been
fantasies - a powerful application of time distortion (relates to Time
binding - an excellent article by Ross Jeffries.
modalities - an explanation plus an exercise in removing
romance novels to enrich your patterning language - the cause
justifies the means:)
misconceptions and problems with patterning - and how to overcome
patterns into a discussion - without sounding unnatural. Also how to
Channel pattern - "the ride goes up and down and once you get off, you
want to come again and again":)
Necklace pattern - tell her a breathless/speechless-making
Trust pattern - alleviate her most common fears.
Rose patterns - and she'll be obsessed with you:) 3 patterns.
the Supernatural patterns - "destinies", "higher beings", "chi
energies"; feed her with her favorite food:)
to Passion pattern - shift her passion from "something" to
Screen pattern - "close eyes, imagine great feelings, open eyes,
Experience pattern - exchange peak experiences with her.
Woman pattern - show her you know the secret and natural side of
the Perfect Man pattern - and she'll feel what its like... in your
Drawn patterns - descriptions of initial attraction plus examples of
using vague language. 4 patterns.
Connection patterns - the classic and its various derivatives. 12
in Love patterns - make her feel the feeling of falling in love:) 7
Dream pattern - help a girl have dreams about you.
Similar pattern - and she'll feel what you feel (a growing
bad we don't? but if we could?" pattern - you can describe almost any
state you want to her with this one:)
Your Desire pattern - and turn good girls into "naughty":).
is Natural pattern - you're adults, you can talk intelligently about
more... the more.." pattern - a simple yet powerful application of
the Poem pattern - transition from patterning to reciting
Eyes patterns - what better topic to talk about than her eyes. 2
Want You pattern - transition from patterning to kissing:)
Least We Can Be Friends pattern - LJBF her into tearing your clothes
off on the spot:)
to Attraction patterns - convert her from friend to lover:) 3
That Girl pattern - reinstate her faith in men.
Job patterns - these are supposed to make her want to... well, you
figure it out:) 2 patterns.
Pleasure patterns - the funniest patterns ever:) Read and you'll know
why:) 3 patterns.
Void pattern - the contrast of feeling empty versus feeling happy and
Door pattern - a pattern so evil, that even Ross Jeffries has
denounced this one.
and other "mind-tricks" - don't leave her any
your own "friend" - to put in a good word with her:)
over the phone - sounds lucrative... but is it worth it?
tease - isn't a woman's curiosity a wonderful thing:)?
that she's interested:
signs of interest - to know you're "in":)
a bridge AFC-style - if you can't do anything, do it at least the AFC
more than one girl is interested in you - don't choose, you might
the signs of a "committed" woman - understand her seemingly
contradictory signs, and the door will be open:)
- there's a girl that has started liking you quite on her own!? Now don't
let that window close:)
a timely exit - instead on lingering on forever, leave her hungry for
- how to get a girl to give you her number and a kiss:)
for a... date? - now that you have her number... what next?
instead of closing - for why would you want to "close" if things are
World routine - constructing a world for her in which she will feel
free to make love to you:)
the girl over to your place - to "check out a book or
she has second-thoughts - she wants it but can't quite make up her
mind, "help" her:)
home is my love-nest - make sure you can be confident about the
quality of your retreat.
and pivots - if you're not quite interested anymore or she's not quite
Handling the girls:
busy - attract girls by being "busy".
competition - keep her on her toes.
a price on yourself - the more you "cost", the more value she
attributes to you.
a willingness to walk away - don't let her take you for granted.
her friends - by realizing, that "friendship" also means
her by her actions, not by her words - or rather, let her actions
speak the words.
and reveal secrets - provide a constant thrill for the woman.
poetry - women are about feelings; poems are about feelings - and
mixing the two gets you dynamite:) 12 poems.
she compliments you - make her feel good for having done that:)
like its special - and what you have can not be found anywhere
her a compliment - an AFC trap, unless you do it right.
for her and "date" at home - the main dish will be less expensive and
the "dessert" more convenient:)
should you call a woman after having sex with her? - don't blow it,
she'll be very sensitive and tender about this one.
gifts and things to do - but use these to reward, not to bribe.
many relationships at once - best policy is (tailored:)
she asks for YOUR number instead - don't fall for this (relates to Closing).
she still refuses to give you her number - a strategy of covert
she says "Why do you ask?" - read how to recover (relates to Patterning
she asks "Are you trying to seduce me?" - this isn't trouble actually
(she likes it:), but you still need to know how to answer.
you ever...?" gets busted - what do you do, if she says "No" in
response (relates to Patterning).
- you don't always have to close. Know when to cut your losses.
she cancels a date - she screwed you (and not the way you hoped she
would:). Now what?
she doesn't return your phone-calls/e-mails - a zero-tolerance
she shows disrespect for you - you dump her, aka The Returning Fox
age difference problem - you shouldn't anticipate it, but its good to
works with the girl - and you tried all your techniques. But there's
an ace up your sleeve:)
she says "Let's just be friends" - looks like you're in trouble, read
how to recover.
with rejection - why you should never get rejected and how to cope
with it, if you do.
I really want this girl! - read why this is such a self-defeating
The boyfriend problem
she says she has a boyfriend - never prompt for it, but if she says it
anyway, don't just bail yet.
the boyfriend in her mind - from "Sweep women off their feet".
techniques - by NYC. Adios borefriends!
destroyer patterns - Hasta la vista borefriends! 6
and games - you'll love these:) "The kissing bet", "Osama", "A-Hole +
truth or dare".
jokes - careful:) "Pants in the air", "Telepathic watch",
"Spermogram", "Doctor's appointment", "Voodoo dildo" etc.
game of Crash and Burn - guess it depends on your definition of fun:)
But a great experience (and confidence?:) builder.
things to do for fun - useless, but fun:)
colognes - for getting the girls, of course.
suggestions and observations about seduction - a
Iranian from hell - do your looks matter? Read this report by Maniac
High and decide for yourself:)
contact experiment - David Shade finds out, how girls react to
eye-contact with a stranger.
pivot theory - NYC explains the benefits of making girls your
comments on www.introme.com - his one-page website / personals ad full
of NLP and SS.
in love vs. being a player - in case you have any feelings of
female seducer turning straight girls into bi and lesbian - if you're
a girl reading "How to Lay Girls", this one's for you:)
in Rolling Stone - a tour of modern seduction literature, NLP and
in Playboy - the Harvard-educated journalist experiences a paradigm
Interview patterns - a different perspective on NLP and patterning. 2
rich and famous setup - but even more accurately the "tired of female
effectiveness of persistence with a smile - true seduction (choose and
seduce:), not a numbers game or easy girls.
street pick-up - a classic street pick-up using humor, romance,
sex-talk and kino with confidence.
friend's street pick-up - a "neg" of sorts gets the ball
original Mr Smooth posts - Maniac High describes the technique of a
IRC seduction - an example of an image to create good feelings.
Shade's online seduction - this guy is really good:) A log of him and
a married woman.
Shade's real-life seduction - and he's not just a computer geek
cowering behind his keyboard:) Read and gasp:)
High's report, NYC's comments - important points being
Orgasmotron - Alex Akselrod plants a post-hypnotic