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"All's fair
in love and war"
Complete Guide to Picking Up and Seducing
Women
Basic Training for Frustrated Chumps and Nice
Guys!
Table of Contents
Read this first:
Disclaimer
- copyright information and about the origins of this guide.
Introduction
- forget money, forget fame, just cut to the chase and get the
girls:).
Reference:
Common
abbreviations and acronyms - all acronyms used in the guide
explained.
General rules:
The
3 seconds rule - the most important rule you'll ever learn, say
bye-bye to hesitation.
Look
and feel your best - all the time!
Be
the Alpha/Dominant male - be in charge of your surroundings. Including
the girls:)
Do
my looks matter? - yes they do, but not nearly as much as you
think.
Nice
guys vs. jerks - the key difference between the two explained.
Good
traits to have - or develop, to be a successful player.
It
all comes down to satisfaction - read why you actually have the upper
hand with the most beautiful of women.
Women
want good sex - so make sure you do her right:)
Should
you express or contain your sexual desires? - a moot point, read
why.
Wanna
play the dating game? - ... um... let's see now...
The
rules with your wingman - if you approach girls together with a friend
/ wingman, make sure you agree on the rules.
Getting
started:
On
confidence - and getting started with approaching girls.
Experiment!
- don't think twice, don't look back, just have fun!.
Casual
meetings vs. pick-ups - the pros and cons.
At
a party - a mild alternative to the 3s rule.
Just
say "Hi" - then continue with one of the two tactics described in the
article.
Talk
to girls - everywhere!
How
to initiate a conversation - here's your back-up, in case your primary
parachute doesn't open.
Talking
to her = echoing her - a stripped down version of Trance
words and Eliciting
values.
Fluff
talk - the essential skill of talking about nothing, and how to evolve
from that.
The
"don'ts of fluff talk - what to avoid.
Reading
body language - its like reading people's thoughts, it'll blow you
away:)
Mirroring
- the Jedi mind tricks of body-language explained.
Kinaesthetics
- make touching the girls your second nature, even (and especially!:) if
you just met them, they'll love it:)
Approaching and making them
interested:
Where
to meet girls - the most popular places for a pick-up.
If
she seems unapproachable - then maybe everyone thinks so... and she's
all alone.
General
guidelines on approaching - a few pointers and examples to get you
started.
Demonstrate
value and personality - the basic premise of seduction.
The
importance of a first impression - or relative unimportance, depending
on whether you're an AFC or a PUA:)
Pace
and lead - and demonstrate understanding to increase
rapport.
The Approaches
Simple
approaches - examples of various conversational approaches.
The
cold approach - not a good approach, unless you combine this with the
GM style.
The
collision approach - either let her walk by... or "bump" into
her:)
The
available chair approach - that empty chair next to a HB looks
inviting...:)
The
crappy sketch-artist approach - because women like artists
right?:)
The
dramatic approach - catch everyone's attention... including
her's:)
The
cellular approach - to choose any topic of discussion.
The
familiar approach - act like you already know her, or fool her into
thinking she knows you:)
Pez
opener - a really "sweet" opener by Mystery:)
You
look stunning approach - Ross Jeffries' classic, careful though, not
intended for use with the 9s and 10s:)
Pacing
the ongoing reality - a simple way to get instant rapport.
Should
I buy her a drink? - read why you'd better avoid it.
Should
I ask for her name? - so that you'd know what name to yell when you're
sleeping with your hand?:)
Leech
off someone else's crash and burn - anything is fair in love and
war:)
If
she is working - a waitress, a nurse, a girl at the cashier - this one
is universal.
If
you just have to use a pick-up line - they suck, unless you show you
know they suck.
"I
like..." game as an opener - you can use this one anywhere.
Mr
Smooth technique - the game-show host style technique of a Japanese
PUA explained step by step.
The
questions game - a shortcut to sex-talk and
kissing.
Gimmicks - palm-reading
Use
a gimmick to get going - handwriting analysis, tarot cards, palmistry
- "crap" you say?:)
Palm-reading
- why should you use it? -
Reading
the lines in general - a do-it-yourself guide to becoming a
gypsy:)
Reading
the line of Fate - yes please:)
Reading
her love-life - uuuhh... sounds interesting:)
Reading
the line of Heart - good, good:)
Reading
the mount of Venus - oh no... where is that?!:)
A
sample reading routine - a few examples to give you the general
idea.
Night-clubs and dancing
Night-clubs
vs. other places to meet girls - a few words of warning.
How
to switch to the right mindset - set yourself apart from "death
row".
Asking
for a dance - just honor the traditions. If you want to get
nowhere:).
About
dancing - unless you have the skills of a back-up dancer, don't waste
your energy.
Slow
dancing - an exception to the "don't waste your energy rule"
above:)
Fast
dance to slow dance - a superior technique of transitioning to a
slow-dance no matter the music:)
After
the dance - now that you've got her, don't let her slip
away.
Group tactics
If
she is with a friend - or even worse, a group of friends? How do you
approach?
Approaching
a group of many girls - a simpler strategy for approaching
groups.
How
to have her leave the group - a passive strategy... but still pretty
good:)
Neghits
Neghits
explained - Mystery shows you what gets you the attention of the most
beautiful girls.
Neghits
expansion pack - some additional advice on using neghits and a few
examples.
Eliciting values
Eliciting
values explained - become the man of her dreams, just by talking to
her:)
Trance
words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Patterning).
Calibrate
the girl - and you can read her like an open book.
Eliciting
values - introducing the questions - how to ask the questions without
sounding obtrusive.
Eliciting
values - the questions - so what questions should you ask?
Eliciting
values - the answers - now that you know her values, it is time to
talk about "yourself":)
The
perfect relationship - a simple value-eliciting scheme.
GM
style
GM
style explained - I bet you won't believe that this actually works:)
Well, it does:)
GM
style lines - completely outrageous!:)
GM
style expansion pack - a continuation of the GM style, links to
appropriate articles.
Sexual talk
Talking
about sex - a few words of warning.
Use
sexual stories to get her horny - can you get away with it? Or, can
she get away... without a wet spot in her pants:)
The
Ideal Guy routine - no matter her interest for you, use this to get
her horny (and be around when that happens:).
Patterning
Patterning
explained - the essence of Ross Jeffries' Speed Seduction.
Delivering
patterns - general rules - the most important aspects.
Delivering
patterns - tonality - the right way to do it.
Additional
patterning skills
Trance
words explained - say it in her own words (also relates to Eliciting
values).
Anchoring
explained - the Pavlov's reflex of seduction:)
Quoting
and stacking realities - you can get away with anything using this
(also relates to Sexual talk":)
Time
distortion - how to make a girl you just met feel like you've been
friends forever:)
Bullshit
fantasies - a powerful application of time distortion (relates to Time
distortion).
Thought
binding - an excellent article by Ross Jeffries.
Sub
modalities - an explanation plus an exercise in removing
hesitation.
Read
romance novels to enrich your patterning language - the cause
justifies the means:)
Common
misconceptions and problems with patterning - and how to overcome
them.
The patterns
Introducing
patterns into a discussion - without sounding unnatural. Also how to
approach.
Discovery
Channel pattern - "the ride goes up and down and once you get off, you
want to come again and again":)
Stone
Necklace pattern - tell her a breathless/speechless-making
story:)
The
Trust pattern - alleviate her most common fears.
The
Rose patterns - and she'll be obsessed with you:) 3 patterns.
Believing
the Supernatural patterns - "destinies", "higher beings", "chi
energies"; feed her with her favorite food:)
Passion
to Passion pattern - shift her passion from "something" to
"someone".
Mental
Screen pattern - "close eyes, imagine great feelings, open eyes,
see... me?:)"
Peak
Experience pattern - exchange peak experiences with her.
Natural
Woman pattern - show her you know the secret and natural side of
her.
Meeting
the Perfect Man pattern - and she'll feel what its like... in your
presence:)
Feeling
Drawn patterns - descriptions of initial attraction plus examples of
using vague language. 4 patterns.
Incredible
Connection patterns - the classic and its various derivatives. 12
patterns.
Falling
in Love patterns - make her feel the feeling of falling in love:) 7
patterns.
The
Dream pattern - help a girl have dreams about you.
Being
Similar pattern - and she'll feel what you feel (a growing
boner?:).
"Too
bad we don't? but if we could?" pattern - you can describe almost any
state you want to her with this one:)
Find
Your Desire pattern - and turn good girls into "naughty":).
Sex
is Natural pattern - you're adults, you can talk intelligently about
sex... right:)?
"The
more... the more.." pattern - a simple yet powerful application of
thought binding.
Reading
the Poem pattern - transition from patterning to reciting
poetry.
The
Eyes patterns - what better topic to talk about than her eyes. 2
patterns.
I
Want You pattern - transition from patterning to kissing:)
At
Least We Can Be Friends pattern - LJBF her into tearing your clothes
off on the spot:)
Indifference
to Attraction patterns - convert her from friend to lover:) 3
patterns.
Find
That Girl pattern - reinstate her faith in men.
Blow
Job patterns - these are supposed to make her want to... well, you
figure it out:) 2 patterns.
Backdoor
Pleasure patterns - the funniest patterns ever:) Read and you'll know
why:) 3 patterns.
The
Void pattern - the contrast of feeling empty versus feeling happy and
fulfilled..
The
Door pattern - a pattern so evil, that even Ross Jeffries has
denounced this one.
Presuppositions
and other "mind-tricks" - don't leave her any
choice:)
Long-distance seduction
Become
your own "friend" - to put in a good word with her:)
Patterning
over the phone - sounds lucrative... but is it worth it?
Nick-name
tease - isn't a woman's curiosity a wonderful thing:)?
Now
that she's interested:
Common
signs of interest - to know you're "in":)
Building
a bridge AFC-style - if you can't do anything, do it at least the AFC
way:)
If
more than one girl is interested in you - don't choose, you might
loose:)
Reading
the signs of a "committed" woman - understand her seemingly
contradictory signs, and the door will be open:)
Capitalize
- there's a girl that has started liking you quite on her own!? Now don't
let that window close:)
Making
a timely exit - instead on lingering on forever, leave her hungry for
more.
Closing
- how to get a girl to give you her number and a kiss:)
Asking
for a... date? - now that you have her number... what next?
Proceeding
instead of closing - for why would you want to "close" if things are
going smooth?
Our
World routine - constructing a world for her in which she will feel
free to make love to you:)
Inviting
the girl over to your place - to "check out a book or
something...":)
If
she has second-thoughts - she wants it but can't quite make up her
mind, "help" her:)
My
home is my love-nest - make sure you can be confident about the
quality of your retreat.
Networking
and pivots - if you're not quite interested anymore or she's not quite
interested yet.
Handling the girls:
Be
busy - attract girls by being "busy".
Suggest
competition - keep her on her toes.
Put
a price on yourself - the more you "cost", the more value she
attributes to you.
Show
a willingness to walk away - don't let her take you for granted.
Use
her friends - by realizing, that "friendship" also means
"rivalry".
Judge
her by her actions, not by her words - or rather, let her actions
speak the words.
Have
and reveal secrets - provide a constant thrill for the woman.
Use
poetry - women are about feelings; poems are about feelings - and
mixing the two gets you dynamite:) 12 poems.
If
she compliments you - make her feel good for having done that:)
Act
like its special - and what you have can not be found anywhere
else.
Paying
her a compliment - an AFC trap, unless you do it right.
Cook
for her and "date" at home - the main dish will be less expensive and
the "dessert" more convenient:)
When
should you call a woman after having sex with her? - don't blow it,
she'll be very sensitive and tender about this one.
Romantic
gifts and things to do - but use these to reward, not to bribe.
Managing
many relationships at once - best policy is (tailored:)
honesty.
Troubleshooting:
If
she asks for YOUR number instead - don't fall for this (relates to Closing).
If
she still refuses to give you her number - a strategy of covert
persistence.
If
she says "Why do you ask?" - read how to recover (relates to Patterning
and Eliciting
values).
If
she asks "Are you trying to seduce me?" - this isn't trouble actually
(she likes it:), but you still need to know how to answer.
"Have
you ever...?" gets busted - what do you do, if she says "No" in
response (relates to Patterning).
Ejecting
- you don't always have to close. Know when to cut your losses.
If
she cancels a date - she screwed you (and not the way you hoped she
would:). Now what?
If
she doesn't return your phone-calls/e-mails - a zero-tolerance
policy.
If
she shows disrespect for you - you dump her, aka The Returning Fox
Theory.
The
age difference problem - you shouldn't anticipate it, but its good to
be prepared.
Nothing
works with the girl - and you tried all your techniques. But there's
an ace up your sleeve:)
If
she says "Let's just be friends" - looks like you're in trouble, read
how to recover.
Dealing
with rejection - why you should never get rejected and how to cope
with it, if you do.
But
I really want this girl! - read why this is such a self-defeating
attitude.
The boyfriend problem
If
she says she has a boyfriend - never prompt for it, but if she says it
anyway, don't just bail yet.
Alienating
the boyfriend in her mind - from "Sweep women off their feet".
Sayanora borefriends!
Boyfriend-smashing
techniques - by NYC. Adios borefriends!
Boyfriend
destroyer patterns - Hasta la vista borefriends! 6
patterns.
Miscellaneous:
Fun
and games - you'll love these:) "The kissing bet", "Osama", "A-Hole +
truth or dare".
Bad
jokes - careful:) "Pants in the air", "Telepathic watch",
"Spermogram", "Doctor's appointment", "Voodoo dildo" etc.
A
game of Crash and Burn - guess it depends on your definition of fun:)
But a great experience (and confidence?:) builder.
More
things to do for fun - useless, but fun:)
Top
colognes - for getting the girls, of course.
Miscellaneous
suggestions and observations about seduction - a
recap.
Articles:
The
Iranian from hell - do your looks matter? Read this report by Maniac
High and decide for yourself:)
Eye
contact experiment - David Shade finds out, how girls react to
eye-contact with a stranger.
The
pivot theory - NYC explains the benefits of making girls your
pivots.
Ross
comments on www.introme.com - his one-page website / personals ad full
of NLP and SS.
Falling
in love vs. being a player - in case you have any feelings of
guilt.
A
female seducer turning straight girls into bi and lesbian - if you're
a girl reading "How to Lay Girls", this one's for you:)
Article
in Rolling Stone - a tour of modern seduction literature, NLP and
Speed Seduction.
Article
in Playboy - the Harvard-educated journalist experiences a paradigm
shift.
Job
Interview patterns - a different perspective on NLP and patterning. 2
patterns.
Field reports:
The
rich and famous setup - but even more accurately the "tired of female
attention" setup:)
The
effectiveness of persistence with a smile - true seduction (choose and
seduce:), not a numbers game or easy girls.
Svengali's
street pick-up - a classic street pick-up using humor, romance,
sex-talk and kino with confidence.
Svengali's
friend's street pick-up - a "neg" of sorts gets the ball
rolling:)
The
original Mr Smooth posts - Maniac High describes the technique of a
Japanese PUA.
NightShadow's
IRC seduction - an example of an image to create good feelings.
David
Shade's online seduction - this guy is really good:) A log of him and
a married woman.
David
Shade's real-life seduction - and he's not just a computer geek
cowering behind his keyboard:) Read and gasp:)
Maniac
High's report, NYC's comments - important points being
discussed.
The
Orgasmotron - Alex Akselrod plants a post-hypnotic
suggestion.
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